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Girl smorgasbord

  Since Elle and I transitioned from lovers to best friends a couple of years ago, I’ve been looking for a girlfriend. It’s something I’ll put sincere effort into sporadically, then I’ll get frustrated and… 

Anniversary trip of 129 orgasms

It had been a year since Hando‘s nearly vanilla self stumbled into my life and as I looked at him pressed against the wall, my rope secured around his wrists, wearing my collar and lacy… 

The Maestro and the BBC

It’s always a relief to meet someone new that can happily navigate open relationships and who enjoys sex. But rarely do I meet someone more pervy than me. For my third date with the Maestro,… 

What I learned in 2016

In my Domme prime when I regularly considered new subs, I steered clear of newbies. I’d learned very quickly that boys who were new to the lifestyle had learned what they thought was submission from… 

Banana Pussy Motivation

“Sure you don’t wanna make that “who gets some first” bet? Looks like your odds are better than mine.”  Hando had a gig that took him 2500 miles away for three months shortly after we… 

You should

“Ooh looks like you have a little tiny bruise here,” I said, touching an area of slightly discolored skin on Hando‘s shoulder about the size of a dime. “I told you I get marked easily,”… 

My swinging New Year’s Eve

Las Vegas locals understand New Year’s Eve is amateur night. Tourists flood the strip, traffic is a nightmare and the weather is always bitter cold. But the Gentleman wanted to ring in the new year… 

She’s baaaaaack!

Nodder has been in and out of my life for five years as a play partner, lover and much much more. In February, things ended. He moved out of my home and, eventually, out of… 

Romkink – by the writer

Last August I wrote about my frustration with the lack of romantic gestures I see from male subs. It was a subject I’d debated on twitter with a couple of my favorite Femdoms, Ferns and… 

Romantic shit

I once had a potential bring me my favorite lavender roses with a bottle of my favorite wine. He scored serious points for his sweetness AND for paying attention. And to this day, a picture… 

Kryptonite

So I’ve been dating this vanilla guy for almost five months. Nothing serious, rather casual. I like the way he asks me questions that make me think almost as much as I like the way… 

Edging Part 2

For those of you who may not know, edging is bringing someone up to the point they’re ready to cum but not letting them orgasm. If you’ve been reading my blog a while, you know… 

Chemistry

My first date with medieval ken, almost a year ago, remains the best first date I’ve ever had. He took the initiative to plan it and I let him. He chose a lovely restaurant with… 

Unintentional monogamy

Once upon a time there was a woman who identified as bisexual, dominant and polyamorous. She chose for dates, play partners and lovers only those that understood that she’d probably never be completely monogamous with… 

What I learned in 2011

2011 was my hottest year yet. Here is what I learned over the past twelve very hot months: I enjoy watersports. A lot. I have a shy bladder. Having a hot guy beg me to… 

He kissed me

Last week I detailed my first date with a vanilla boy who was too scared to kiss me. Since that night, he’s been amazingly cute with his plotting and planning for our second date last… 

Scaring vanilla boys

I had a very vanilla first date tonight with a very vanilla guy. Barbecue and shopping. It was lovely in a very vanilla way. “You should have just kissed me,” I texted him after we… 

Maybe I’m just greedy

I’m polyamorous. I’m a Domme. But I don’t want MY sub submitting to another Domme while he’s submitting to me. Maybe that means I’m not poly. Maybe I’m just greedy. I’ve previously considered and given…