Christmas bondage
Hando was working abroad during Christmas. We managed to exchange Christmas gifts via FaceTime but it wasn’t until recently that we were able to celebrate Christmas together properly. I wanted to spend the day watching…
My type
Until a few years ago, I’d always claimed I didn’t have a type. True, I’d enjoyed an exotic men phase (Indian, Egyptian, Iranian, French and Italian) and I’d always enjoyed younger men, but physically, there…
Eye contact
Call me romantic but I really enjoy looking deep into a man’s eyes when I push my cock into his ass. I’ve bent a boy over. It’s always nice. There’s something more than a just…
What I learned in 2011
2011 was my hottest year yet. Here is what I learned over the past twelve very hot months: I enjoy watersports. A lot. I have a shy bladder. Having a hot guy beg me to…
Truly thankful
On this Thanksgiving Day, I’d like to take a moment to express my gratitude and sincere appreciation for submissive men. I am truly thankful for submissive men. You are the yin to my yang. Without your…
Maybe I’m just greedy
I’m polyamorous. I’m a Domme. But I don’t want MY sub submitting to another Domme while he’s submitting to me. Maybe that means I’m not poly. Maybe I’m just greedy. I’ve previously considered and given…
Defiance
Nodder’s panties. “I brought you something,” I announced as I pulled things from my overnight bag. “Oh yeah?” nodder asked. I tossed “his” panties on the bed. “I don’t need those,” nodder said. “Yes you…
With a nod
Over the past four years I’ve become increasingly orgasmic. I cannot express how grateful I am for this fact. It wasn’t so long ago that I could only cum when I was on top of…
Trying casual play
I’m playing with the girl again tomorrow night. It’ll be the first time we’ve played in 9 months or so and I’m looking forward to it. No, she’s not my sub anymore nor is she…
Erotica: Fulfillment – by the writer
A loyal reader, who I call the writer, wrote this very very hot story for me. He somehow managed to write the Femdom as very Lilyana-like, so much so that when I read this I…
‘Saving myself’ or ‘Maybe I’m not as sadistic as I thought’
This blog is a follow up to my previous post entitled Today is the day about how I’ve been looking forward to using a strap-on on a boy for the first time. While my (former)…
On planning and satisfying cravings
In many areas of my life, I’m very much a planner. I like to schedule things. I like to know what I’m doing, what comes next. But when it comes to playing with a submissive,…
My poly partners’ other partners
Being poly, embracing polyamory, is still quite new to me so a lot of what I’m encountering as I sort through poly relationships with my partners is new. What’s new and even more unexpected is…
Too lazy to proofread, too lazy to be MY sub
Sometimes checking my collarme mail can be down right entertaining. Below is the profile of a potential who messaged me as well as our correspondences. I’ve bolded the worst grammar transgressions. Hello everyone i hope…
Hope for male subs in vanilla marriages
Trust me when I say there are a lot of married men who are submissive and their wives have no clue. I know because invariably, they find me, and other Dommes I’m sure, and want…
‘Sub shock’ by @prokink
I’ve coined the term “sub shock” to describe the catharsis of emotions a sub experiences after doing something for me that shakes them to the core of their manliness. No matter how many times it…
Poetry from a prospective sub
The following poem was sent to me by a prospective sub I have been speaking with. I thought this was so nice that I wanted to share it with my blog readers, with his permission…
Is he submissive or just kinky?
I’ve spoken with a lot of submissive guys in the short year since I realized I’m Dominant. A lot. And I’ve spoken with a few guys who THINK they’re submissive who are really not. Last…